fix!: harden lifecycle, dispatchers, back-pressure (#778)

fixes #573 
fixes #574 
fixes #708 

- Handlers ran on `Dispatchers.IO` → now `Dispatchers.Default`,
configurable via `handlerDispatcher`.
- Reader/writer dispatcher exposed as `ioDispatcher` (default
`IODispatcher.limitedParallelism(2)`).
- Optional caller-supplied `CoroutineScope` so the pipeline isn't
detached from the caller's tree.
- `CancellationException` consistently rethrown across all pumps.
- Unbounded channels → bounded with graceful drain on close (in-flight
outbound flushed before `onClose`).
- Input `Source` now closed on natural EOF / reader error (was leaking
for non-`System.in` sources).
- Race between `start()` and `close()` fixed via 3-state CAS +
`setupComplete` barrier replacing `AtomicBoolean`.

## How Has This Been Tested?
unit and integration tests 

## Breaking Changes
- Handlers default to `Dispatchers.Default` (was `Dispatchers.IO`).
Override with `handlerDispatcher = Dispatchers.IO` if your handlers
perform blocking I/O.
- `send()` suspends under back-pressure instead of buffering unbounded.
- `StdioServerTransport(input, output)` ctor is `@Deprecated` (WARNING)
in favor of `StdioServerTransport(input, output) { ... }`. Still
binary-compatible.

## Types of changes
- [x] Bug fix (non-breaking change which fixes an issue)
- [x] New feature (non-breaking change which adds functionality)
- [ ] Breaking change (fix or feature that would cause existing
functionality to change)
- [ ] Documentation update

## Checklist
- [x] I have read the [MCP
Documentation](https://modelcontextprotocol.io)
- [x] My code follows the repository's style guidelines
- [x] New and existing tests pass locally
- [x] I have added appropriate error handling
- [x] I have added or updated documentation as needed

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-.claude/settings.local.json
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 .junie/
 
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